I’m back, it’s Millie with Millie in the City with the number one dating and relationship forum in the Washington, DC Metropolitan area. Now that we have gotten that out the way, I want to discuss the going back to old school style of dating. So in honor of that, this article is appropriately titled: We Need Old School Dating Back!
Let’s Turn Back the Time on Dating.
We all know that the “hookup culture” is on the rise, it sometimes seems hard to remember the days when people actually took dating seriously. From one night stands to casual flings, hooking up has pretty much become the new normal. Please do not get me wrong, there certainly is nothing wrong with having a good time, but I have to admit that I really miss getting tangible signs that the man I am seeing is genuinely interested in me without having to turn into Sherlock Holmes just to figure out what he is really thinking. I have conversations all the time with Singles and folk in relationships that say that there is a major disconnect between our parents’ generation of dating and how we approach the game today.
I thought I would touch on some retro dating habits (that are slowly becoming extinct) that will prove, without a shadow of a doubt, why we all need to stop playing it cool and just be honest about how we feel.
First things first, pick up the freakin phone and have an actual conversation. – The first old school ritual we need to revive is picking up the phone! Forget about emoji wars and figure out how your date really feels by having an actual conversation.
Secondly – Communicate, Communicate, Communicate In person – Why hide behind texts when you can make your date swoon with your man-ish charm in the flesh? Do not let your smooth lines get lost in translation.
Thirdly – How about being on time – If you say you’re going to show up at a certain time, actually get there on time. Male or female, there is nothing sexy about dining at a table for one, waiting for your date to grace you with his or her presence. I have a friend named Bernie and he swears by it. If you say you will be ready at 8:00 p.m. and you are not ready by 8:05; he will leave.
Fourthly – Courting is essential, try it! – The “hookup culture” of today is all about being physical without getting twisted in the emotional. How about we flip the script and try taking it slow? Whether it’s in the form of amorous letters or a walk in the park, make an effort to court your sweetheart the old-fashioned way.
Fifthly – Are you ready to commit – Go steady first! We have become so obsessed with social media that the defining moment of a relationship is how fast we make it “facebook official”. Back in the ’50 or so, going steady meant nixing those mixed signals in the bud by promising to commit and actually meaning it.
Sixthly – Try Honesty being the best policy – Okay, you will not need to put your facebook stalking skills to use and crack his cryptic statuses for this one. Speak Up – The only way that you will change your relationship status is by making it clear that you want more.
Seventhly – Stop Playing Mind Games – Old school romance was all about being transparent with your partner and showing just how interested you were. Nothing is worse than falling for someone who does not feel the same.
Eighthly – Bring Chivalry Back To Life – Let us be real for a moment – Chivalry needs some serious mouth to mouth resuscitation. For starters, small gestures (like not letting the door slam in your date’s face) should just be common courtesy regardless of gender.
In conclusion and lastly – Just be yourself – if you seriously want to find the one, you have to love yourself first and trust that everything else will fall into place. No matter what generation you are a part of, this rule will always trump all.
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